TODAY ON FRANKLY SPEAKING – CONFRONT YOUR OPPOSITION 06-09-2017
improve, to make better decisions, to
make better choices, and do the right
things but, we really never get around to
doing these things and we gradually slip
back into our world and style of life as
usual and forget all about the resolution
to improve?
Why are we more inspired by what we
hear than the will to do? Why do we
always acknowledge the fact that we
have better opportunities and prospects
for great improvement, superlative
performances and achievements yet,
can’t just get around to manifesting the
capacities?
Day after day, time after time, many of
us indulge in listening to teachers and
good speakers; some read to obtain more
knowledge and answers to their various
circumstances and life challenges, but
putting into practice that which they now
know so as to improve their lives appears
to be so difficult hence, no improvements
what so ever despite all the new and
powerful knowledge. So daily you can’t
help but come across very brilliant and
knowledgeable but broke and frustrated
Nigerians. The power to apply is not
there.
Every now and again I speak to so many
people on steps and procedures they can
take to get out of a bad or difficult
situation or even improve on their
average life conditions; they love it, they
accept it, applaud it and they
inadvertently just ignore implementation.
They just revert to their normal way of
doing things and in my interpretation
remain satisfied by just the knowledge of
the solution to their situation.
Apparently wisdom is the correct
application of knowledge. What you know
cannot help without you applying it to
that situation. Dear friend, if you really
want to see significant improvement, you
must take deliberate steps to apply what
you know and have learnt.
I think also for many of us, there is an
unruffled and secure zone we love to
embrace because we are by nature not
confrontational. We hate to confront
situations, people and circumstances. We
hate to be seen as troublesome or
trouble makers. We are overly bothered
about the opinion of others, we want
everybody to like us, we don’t want to
offend anyone and we pretend to be on
everyone’s side whether we agree with
them or not. We feel comfortable when
we are at peace with everyone, so we
hate to disagree even if it hurts us. We
love to be wanted and accepted, we hate
to be alone in and with anything, we
appreciate togetherness even if it’s
taking us down. We want peace at all
cost even it its graveyard peace.
Dear friend, may I say to you this
morning that you may be somewhat
disconnected with the reality of your life?
Listen, every passing day you are aging
and your time is running out?
Dear friend my challenge to you this
morning is to wake up and fight. It’s time
to fight complacency and become
positively confrontational. Who and what
is standing in your way to greater
achievements and accomplishments? For
every stagnation or retrogression there is
someone or something responsible.
Nothing just happens in life. Life is
fashioned in a cause and effect manner.
All things have causal factors. Someone
and something is responsible for your
situation weather you know it or not, it
could even be you, accept it or not,
believe it or not, there is something in
the way of your greater self.
Please understand I’m not asking that
you put up an offensive quarrel or fight,
I’m asking that you must decide to stop
bowing and bending to your oppositions
and challenges. Stand up for what you
want, what you desire and what you want
to achieve. And may I introduce you to
your most powerful opposition? It’s you,
yes, you.
Dear friend, you can’t conquer what is on
the outside unless and until you’ve
conquered what is on the inside.
Some weeks ago a young married
woman; about 23 years old with a
daughter who works as a counter clerk in
a supermarket in my neighborhood
excitedly told me her funny experience.
Married for about three years, her very
quick tempered husband for all their
married years took delight in beating up
this young pretty wife. He was very mean
and abusive, and beats her up at the
drop of a hat. She’s been in and out of
the hospital and attended several
counselling sessions on this account and
in fact friends and family have advised
she leaves her husband before he kills
her by accident but she wouldn’t listen
as according to her she still loves him
and she loves her daughter.
Before now when he begins to shout and
approach her to hit her when in an
argument, she would just go on her
knees and begin to beg, then he would
begin to beat, kick and hit her, but on
this last occasion, as he approached her
to hit her, she refused to kneel or beg
instead she dared him to hit her,
according to her, he slapped her and
immediately she slapped him back, she
said he was so shocked he couldn’t
move, and after she did that all the love
she had for him just faded away instantly
and now she’s back with her parents with
her daughter and she’s very happy and
free. I smiled, I was glad she was now
free and happy.
But if you, with me critically analyze the
situation, she actually didn’t conquer her
abusive husband, he wasn’t really the
problem; she was the problem. Her
refusal to reject that kind of treatment
from day one was what made the beating
linger for that long. Immediately she
conquered herself, she conquered the
situation. According to her, her husband
has been coming to beg with his
relatives promising to change and never
to lift a finger against her again.
Dear friend, most of the issues you’re
confronting today – stressing,
manipulating and overpowering you is
most likely by your permission. Your
refusal to reject and psychologically
confront your thought disposition towards
the situation would make it linger for as
long as you keep tolerating it.
My dear friend, I believe it’s time for you
to stand up and in your mind confront
every thinking and mindset that tolerates
poverty, insufficiency, stagnation,
inferiority, laziness and non-productivity
in your life and career. I tell you, you are
the way you are based on your own
permission to be that way.
You are broke today because somehow
in your mind, you’ve become tolerant of
lack hence have refused to take
consistent deliberate steps to stem the
flow of poverty in your life. You’ve
tolerated it to that point where it’s
almost like your identity. In fact in your
speaking at times, you make statements
like we the poor! Taa!
Hence, when you go for counselling and
listen to tapes, teaching realistic and
practical steps out of poverty, you enjoy
the teaching, appreciate the knowledge,
get excited about the knowledge but
because you are unwilling to confront
that state of poverty, you condone it and
jettison all you know and have learnt on
how to escape poverty.
Many today are ‘ hearers’ but not ‘ doers’ .
It is only knowledge applied that profits!
All that you know today, wise saying,
principles, quotable quotes, philosophies
and profound statements that you have
memorized, put up as display message
and status update on your phones and
social media sites, all your shared
broadcast about what great men of old
have said, where is it applied in your own
life?
The many books in your library, many
tapes in your collection, newsletters and
journals; all the lessons and insights,
have they found relevance and
expression in your own life?
Truth is a man can teach others how to
be rich and remain poor if he does not
personally apply what he teaches.
A boss can teach a subordinate how to
become a managing director and the
subordinate would become his managing
director if that boss wouldn’t apply the
principle he teaches.
My dear friend, enough of just knowledge
and talking, it’s very easy to talk, it’s
very easy to display and show off how
much you know. It’s not so difficult to be
crafty with words and poetic in
expression, you can coin and develop as
many wise inspirational sayings as
possible and be a victim of what you
address if you don’t apply what you
know.
Dear friend, resolve today to confront all
negative and mediocre mindset you
carry. It’s really not in how much you
know but in how much you apply and
practice.
Do you realize at times because you
know the answer you become careless
with a problem? Then you make costly
mistakes.
Confront that situation and overcome in
your mind, pull all your emotional energy
together and withstand all your
oppositions. You are better than this, you
can do more, can achieve more can
deliver more than this. The best of you,
the world is yet to see, I tell you, unleash
your excellence and surprise yourself and
everyone.
Rise up today and apply all you know;
that’s what makes you wise my friend.
Enjoy your day.
Consultant: Saint Gabriel Concept
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